Crossposted from lynettebye.com. 

 

While the oft-cited statistic is that 20% of adults have a mental illness, I estimate the true number who would benefit from therapy or mental health self-help resources at some point in their life is closer to two thirds (see footnote).

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I personally benefited enormously from taking an antidepressant and understand myself better from having seen five therapists over the past decade, yet somehow it never occurred to me that I should try either until friends shared their personal stories. There’s probably a whole post’s worth of words on how it’s hard to match our internal experiences to labels. 

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But I’m not writing that post, so I’ll just say this: Maybe it helps to think of mental health as understanding and being able to manage what your brain does, instead of a diagnosis wielded by doctors about a specific disease. So when I’m putting time into mental health, I’m investing in training my brain.  

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I’m not saying mental illnesses aren’t real illnesses - instead I’m pointing at the broad spectrum of internal experiences between “diagnosable major depression” and “I feel and think things that I don’t like and don’t know how to deal with.” Mental health resources can help with both of those places. 

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So here are the best resources I have for investing in your brain. I’ve bolded the most useful ones, so focus on those if you’re short on time. 

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Self-Help 

If you’re severely depressed enough that you don’t have the energy to wade through answers or you are currently suicidal, call a helpline or schedule an appointment with your doctor. 

Otherwise, start with the Slate Star Codex posts Things that sometimes work if you have anxiety and Things that sometimes help if you have depression. Scott Alexander put together great summaries of the lifestyle, professional, pharmaceutical, and last resort interventions you can try. 

"Having a successful career with depression, anxiety and imposter syndrome" from the 80,000 Hour Podcast has a great, really personal description of living with depression. I particularly appreciated Howie's take on medication vs therapy at the end.

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"Things That Might Be Making You Miserable” has a good list of common sense life areas that can make you miserable if you’re not meeting your personal needs for that area. I’d recommend skimming the list and seeing if you feel unhappy with the current state of any of them. (Note, you might have blind spots.)

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The Patient Health Questionnaire (PHQ-9) asks a few questions that let you check how likely it is that you’re depressed. If you score above 10, you should probably think about seeing a doctor. If you score 5-9, you may still benefit from medication (which would require seeing a doctor) or self-help. Additionally, you can actually get a pretty low score even if you're thinking about suicide all the time, as long as you don't have other symptoms. So go see a doctor if that’s you.

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Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David Burns and Overcoming Perfectionism by Roz Shafran both introduce self-administered cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) with worksheets. (Feeling Good targets depression more, and Overcoming Perfectionism targets, well, perfectionism.) If you have recurring thoughts that feel true and make your life worse, one of these books might help you check those beliefs against reality. Both were recommended by multiple people and report to have stood up well in studies. Personally, I preferred Overcoming Perfectionism. (One big caveat for Feeling Good - ignore everything Burns says about medication.) I recommend only reading a workbook if you’re actually ready to go through the exercises as you read, since I expect the exercises are necessary for longer term changes.

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If you’re considering trying medication, you’ll need to talk to a doctor. You might also want to do your own research - Scott’s posts above are good places to start getting information. This sheet has quick facts on side effects of various antidepressants, and I appreciated Rob Wiblin’s thoughtful write up about his experience with Wellbutrin. 

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Among effective altruists, there’s a particular pattern of mental health problems related to feeling guilty about not doing enough to help the world: feeling guilty setting personal boundaries, or worrying that you’re not smart enough to make a difference, or thinking that what you’re doing is good but just not “good enough” to matter. Desperation Hamster Wheels is a great description of one EA’s experience with this, Helen Toner’s sustainable motivation talk is good, Tessa hits some good points on slack and moving targets in “Aiming for the minimum of self-care is dangerous”, and the Replacing Guilt series on Minding Our Way seems to be particularly valuable in helping find a healthy balance to these thoughts so that you actually make progress toward your goals. 

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If you want more resources, Scott Alexander’s new psychiatry practice has a growing database of mental-health-related resources. Ewelina Tur, an EA therapist, has a list of mental health resources here, including workbooks, mental health apps (like Mind Ease for anxiety), and audiobooks. The EA Mental Health Navigator website has a list of virtual mental health resources here. 

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A quick note: even if you’ve tried the self-help strategies above and they didn’t work for you, you may still benefit from therapy. It’s often worth trying the self-help stuff (because it’s cheaper if it works), but a good therapist will have a perspective that you likely lack. So base the decision about trying therapy on how much benefit improving your mental health would have on your productivity and quality of life. 

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Therapy

This section is mostly US focused, plus a bit of UK. 

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Finding a therapist you like can be challenging. Therapy is a big time investment with high variance outcomes, but the expected value is often quite high. 

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Advice on selecting a good therapist

Kate Donovan, an effective altruist and therapist, wrote this concrete 4-part guide to starting therapy, which includes email templates for reaching out to therapists. 

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Damon Pourtahmaseb-Sasi, another EA therapist, wrote his suggestions for warning signs to look out for in his post The Bad Therapist. 

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Anisha Sensa Mauze, yet another EA therapist, wrote a guide to finding a therapist, and another post about what to do if you don’t think a therapist is a good fit for you. 

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Finding a therapist 

You can find a list of providers recommended by community members on the EA Mental Health Navigator (MHN). This list is the best resource for finding a therapist that is likely to work well with EAs that I know of. (Disclaimer, I helped set up the database.) The MHN also has a shorter list of “Providers in EA” which I think is mainly comprised of people who identify as EAs or are particularly familiar with effective altruism.

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Here are a couple lists to find therapists familiar with specific populations: transgender-friendly therapists, poly-friendly professionals, and kink-aware professionals. 

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If it’s important to find a therapist who accepts your insurance, Psychology Today has a directory of therapists that you can search in your area. You can filter by insurance, specialty, etc. Note, if the therapist claims to take thirty different insurances, they probably mean they will send you a superbill for out-of-network reimbursement. This means that you will likely owe half to the full price. 

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Most health insurance companies also have a tool to search for in-network therapists on their website, although the tool may be a pain to use. 

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I haven’t checked out therapy matching websites in depth, but I heard that the much-advertised site BetterHelp was a poor substitute for finding a therapist directly due to short calls and worse-than-average selection of therapists (though it might be a good stop-gap if you need to see a therapist immediately). I would love to hear if any readers’ found a matching site they loved. Were you matched with a therapist you liked and found helpful? Was it covered by insurance? How annoying/effortful was the process? 

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If you’re in the UK, you can search for therapists on this website. 

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Note: I recommend the database on the EA Mental Health Navigator over any of the following lists - the MHN list has scraped the top recommended providers from the other lists, and is generally more up-to-date. If you want to check out other lists anyway: Slate Star Codex has a list of community-recommended therapists. Note, information on price and sliding scales seem to be out of date for some therapists on the list, and most don’t accept insurance. For therapists specific to the bay area, Anisha put together this list of therapists recommended by community members, and Howie Lempel put together a second list of recommended therapists. Again, most therapists on these lists don’t accept insurance. 

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Footnote

The internet frequently claims that 20% of adults have a mental illness, citing sources like the National Survey on Drug Use and Health and Our World in Data.  

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However, 71% of responses to the EA Mental Health Survey reported having or suspecting they had a mental health condition. I checked among a sample of 20 responses to “Do you suspect you have or have you ever been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, ADHD, or another mental health disorder?” that I ask potential clients, and the response was about half (two thirds if I count mild conditions). Anecdotally, this seems reasonable based on my observations of friends in the EA community. 

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I suspect this discrepancy is because:

• The National Survey on Drug Use and Health doesn’t include ADHD, which the EA Mental Health Survey and my intake question both did. This increased the total by about 10 percentage points. 

• The National Survey on Drug Use and Health only asks about the present year, while the EA Mental Health Survey and my intake question both ask about past diagnoses.  

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Note: The mental health survey likely had significant sample bias in who decided to take it. 

With all of that, it seems quite possible that above 50% of adults will deal with a mental health problem at some point in their lives that is worth addressing.